perri pickles + imperfections | it's awesome when your bestie is a love guru.

it’s awesome when your bestie is a love guru.

this is the best advise my best friend has ever given me. i know it’s personal, but it’s too amazing not to share. hope this helps you as much as it helped me. love, cp

“first of all, no one has to have it all figured out at 25. I remember being 25 and thinking I knew all the answers, that way i thought I knew them all at 15. Here I am about to turn thirty and still don’t know them, but to me and as an outsider, I don’t think the issue with your relationship is that you don’t love each other or want to be together, I think that you guys struggle existing in an ever changing relationship. To me is seems like you guys are either 100% perfect, in love, can’t be happier, on a beach, at home, on tour whatever, or you are convinced it is over and you won’t ever let him back in your life. Very high highs, and very low lows.

I think you need to be a little easier on yourself and instead of trying to live in a constant perfection love, just accept that sometimes things are gonna suck, there are gonna be things he says and does, and things you say and do that really bug each other, but that you have to communicate with each other about what you need, while you are in the relationship. Every time you feel frustrated or unhappy shouldn’t mean you have to break-up and get back together the next week.

You have so much going on, and an on again off again roller coaster isn’t good for either of you. I honestly think this isn’t about love at all, it’s about communicating (oh my GOD, I am so old, I sound like my mom) It’s apparent to me that you really love each other but you live inside this weird work, play, love, world where even the small things feel like bombs.

If you are happy I am happy, and relationships are all sticky but if your guts feels like he 100% belongs in your heart, then you have to fight everyday to make it work.”

- keltie colleen …saving relationships all over the planet (follow her on twitter @keltiecolleen)